3.8.1 FACEBOOK USE
Logging
into Facebook (a social networking site) through the website or mobile application
and taking an action to share content or activity with Facebook friends and
viewing or commenting on what others have shared. One can surf through the
posts put up by friends on their wall, tag friends in photographs, events, etc.
Facebook tends to reduce the factor of geographical barriers in terms of
communication. This is one of the reasons why it is being widely used. The 3
major reasons young adults report for using Facebook are:
i.
Being up to date with the current affairs
and events
ii.
Being in touch with those who are at a
faraway distance
iii.
Trying to pass some free time
3.8.2 ATTACHMENT STYLES IN
RELATIONSHIPS
John
Bowlby defined attachment as “a lasting psychological connectedness between
human beings.” There are four attachment styles identified in adults:
dismissive, secure, fearful, and preoccupied.
i.
Dismissive style: People with this
attachment style are good in a non-emotional situation. People make
independence a priority. So, they neither depend on their partner nor do they
let their partner depend on them. People tend to be emotionally distant. People
are not comfortable to talk about their emotions, avoid conflicts and then tend
to burst out all of a sudden.
ii.
Secure style: People with this attachment
style feel comfortable in emotionally close, warm and loving relationships. People
are available in time of need for their partner, allow partner to depend on
them and are ready to depend on the partner also. Respect the need of privacy
of their partner. People are tolerant of differences, reliable, show compassion
whenever needed and merciful.
iii.
Fearful style: People with this
attachment style are constantly worried/fear rejection and abandonment in a
close relationship. People need assurance again and again. People are highly
emotional, can get quarrelsome and have poor personal boundaries. People are
impulsive and moody. People are not aware of their own responsibility in a
relationship and tend to blame their partner for everything.
iv.
Preoccupied style: People with this
attachment styles have mixed feeling and opinions about a close relationship.
People desire for emotionally close relationships but also feel uncomfortable
with emotional closeness. People frequently tend to suppress and deny their
feelings. Due to this people are much less comfortable in expressing affection.
3.8.3 SOCIAL INTERACTION ANXIETY
Mattick
and Clarke defined social interaction anxiety as “distress when meeting and
talking with other people.” Some symptoms could be:
i.
Being introduced to people
ii.
Criticism
iii.
Getting a lot of attention and becoming
the center of attraction
iv.
Nervousness
v.
Excessive sweating and trembling
vi.
Talking in front of a crowd, to mention
a few.
3.8.4 SELF-ESTEEM
Rosenberg
defined self-esteem as “the totality of the individual’s thoughts and feelings
with reference to himself as an object.” In other words, self-esteem refers a
positive or negative orientation toward oneself. Major factors that tend to
influence self-esteem are:
i.
Meaning of success
ii.
Goal setting
iii.
Accomplishment
iv.
Realistic vs. Unrealistic Expectations
v.
Attitude
vi.
Family and friends
vii.
Media, to mention a few